How to know if a lady is a wife material

Women assume men don’t think of marriage or they want a wife-slave who will do whatever her husband wishes. This notion is false. Most men want to make their future wives happy. They want to have a family, to love and to be loved.

They want to have fun with their wives in the bedroom and they don’t want to cheat. Failed relationships and marriages are failed because both partners couldn’t find a mutual understanding. Plus, wrong beliefs destroy even the strongest relationships.

If you believe that all men want is delicious meals and sex, then think again, otherwise you won’t find your soulmate till death. Check out the things most men expect from their future wives. 

You are self-developed and whole. 

You have a well-rounded life that you’ve created for yourself that includes healthy friendships and an outlet for service. You’re most likely a reader, and devour things that interest you. Quite often you initiate and contribute a fresh perspective when conversing with your man. You’ve developed your personal philosophies by thinking through and researching several viewpoints. You are confident about your opinions without being dogmatic.

Men love a woman who is intelligent, articulate, and open minded. You have to do homework to be this kind of woman.

You offer him respect and priority. 

You appreciate him with your words, affection, time, and your gaze. When he walks through the door, you stop what you’re doing, stand up and greet him: the man you love just walked in. Do this no matter how busy you are. Do this even if you’ve been married 10 years. It shows respect.

You are a joy to come home to after a long day. 

When your man has had a bad/busy/stressed-out day, you don’t bomb him with your news when he walks in the door. When he would talk about it later, she really listened to him. She empathized without advice giving.

They did this tradeoff for each other. They were tuned in to each other’s needs and made a habit of being the “shelter person” when the other needed support.

You let him contribute to you. 

Men want to be rock stars for their women. You are able to embody being beautifully empowered and independent, while being receptive and appreciative of what your man wants to give you.

You appreciate and accept his financial status. 

As a conscious woman, you are clear about your financial comfort zone, and you are aware of the economics of your coupling before you get married.

Get real with yourself. If a “simple life” to him translates as “destitute and poor” to you, you need to find someone who is on the same economic page as you. Do not go into denial because you are in love and then complain about his job choice and your shared standard of living after you are married.

You maintain a reserve. 

You maintain a certain privacy, no matter how long you have been together. Not a sly withholding or secretiveness, but an aura of dignity. You don’t air every thought and emotion that comes into your head. Your man knows it would take a 100 years to unravel you, and that’s because you have maintained a reserve for yourself. You are committed to your own borders of self for the rest of your life.

 You are sexually healthy and available to him. 

You’re open with yourself and generous to him. You’re lit up by him and welcome his desire. You generate your own sexual appetite. You’ve educated yourself in this regard.

You support him in his role as a father. 

If you love a man who has minor children from a previous marriage, do not behave as if they are in competition with you for his attention. You embrace and support his choice to have a close, nurturing relationship with his children. This means you will, as a couple, be spending time, money, and attention on them.

When men go through divorce, one of the worst fears they deal with is missing out on their kids’ lives. They had a dream when their children were born. Make sure that, on your watch, he gets to live his dream of being an amazing father. Give him the love, freedom, and acceptance to fully engage with his kids.

He can trust you 100%. 

You do not overspend, overeat, become crazy religious, develop emotional relationships with other men, or break his confidence with your mom, sister, or girlfriends. You are faithful. Yes, all of these are areas of faithfulness.

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