By Lauryne Akoth
Kenyan youths have mixed reactions when it comes to this topic, particularly because most have differing opinions on the matter.
For some individuals, the prospect of moving out is an exhilarating and liberating experience, marking the beginning of a journey toward independence and self-discovery.
On the other hand, for others, the process can be bittersweet, as it entails leaving behind the comfort and familiarity of home and charting a new path.
Then comes the que sera sera lot, the individuals who take things slow unfazed by societal expectations. We all have different reasons for wanting to move out depending on the circumstances. Here are the top 8 reasons why Kenyan Youths want to move out.
1. The Need For Freedom/ Space
The African parents’ memes and narratives resonate with a majority of Kenyan youths as most can give you first-hand experience of living in a traditional African household with strict parents.
At a particular point in time, the” my house my rules” notion compels most youths to move out. Many yearn for the freedom to do things whenever and however they want. A majority find it challenging to cohabit with parents, especially for those transitioning from campus/ colleges in pursuit of employment opportunities.
Transitioning from doing things at your convenience to a routine coupled with the need for approval for things like going out, are major motivating factors. It is unfortunate that for most, options are limited considering the current economy. You either move out and starve, or bear with the situation until a better option arises.
2. Independence to Make Their Own Decisions.
Moving out in Kenya is often seen as a rite of passage for young individuals to assert their independence. Throughout the majority of their teenage years, many young individuals experience a sheltered upbringing under their parents’ guidance, and some may perceive it as overly restrictive or verging on micromanagement.
In households where parents exert control over various aspects of their lives, such as dictating clothing choices, university courses, or social interactions with the opposite gender, the prospect of moving out is often viewed as a welcome change.
Some individuals even make preparations to move out discreetly, choosing to keep their plans under wraps until they feel ready to share the news. The independence to make mistakes and learn from them without feeling like your decisions are run under a microscope is a prospect most look forward to.
3. Financial Independence
While many are yet to accomplish this remarkable feat, others have already reached this milestone and are doing well for themselves. Others may choose to move out to alleviate the strain on their parents while others feel the need to have their own space, support themselves financially, and manage all their expenses. A very comforting feeling.
When questioned about her decision to move out, a student from KU explained, “I have a job, which allows me to support myself, but it’s all about careful planning. I was able to move out comfortably because I saved up and acquired necessary items before making the move.”
4. Social Influence and Internal Pressure
Social Media has heightened the pressure on most youths to have their lives in order. The race to have the perfect house, the perfect car, and most importantly to have money contributes to internal pressure among youths.
Social media has made young individuals leap to move out without being fully prepared for practical challenges such as managing bills. Youths must understand that moving out is a significant change that necessitates careful planning.
Everyone’s journey is unique and comparison with others is neither a healthy nor viable approach.
5. Conflict At Home
Conflicts and disagreements among family members may prompt young people to seek independence and move out. Staying in households with strained relationships proves to be toxic and has many moving out for the sake of peace and their mental health.
6. Parents asking Their Children to Move out.
The funniest thing I have come across on the internet today is a couple from Texas serving their son with a notice of eviction, for cohabiting with them at the age of 30.
Funny as it may seem, this is a reality happening in Kenya. I have seen parents take their children to court for not moving out. Some parents establish an age limit and ask their children to move out. Others not so subtly ask, “utahama lini?”
Instead of waiting for the subtle jabs, most youths decide to move out and be independent.
7. Relationships.
Relationships can play a significant role in the decision to leave the parental home, as young adults seek to build their own families or share living spaces with peers.
‘Come we stay’ is very much active in Kenya and a trend happening mostly among campus students.
8. Education and Career Opportunities
Truth be told, not all parents advocate for their children to move out. However, in other cases, it is necessary. Young individuals move out in pursuit of education and job opportunities mainly far away from home.
This may involve relocating to a different city or even a different country to access specific educational institutions or industries.
The aforementioned factors encompass various reasons why Kenyan youth want to move out, with independence and the desire for personal space taking precedence. For those moving out, buckle up, it is going to be an interesting journey.