When the guy who has been so incredibly attentive towards you and has shown you a world of interest suddenly backs off and creates distance between you, you are naturally going to wonder why. When a guy loses interest in you, if he is trying to sort out his feelings before reaching a final decision, there is often a series of “tells” that he is extricating himself from being a part of your life. Noticing that this is happening to you can allow you to be ready for the inevitable and to take action to care for yourself first and foremost, getting ready to move on to someone better.
You are not his priority
If he isn’t really interested in you, you are not his priority. Every time you try to talk to him or make a plan with him, he tells you that he is busy and he doesn’t have time. In fact, he never has time for you. Whether it’s work or cleaning his apartment, he will ditch all your plans. If he was seriously into you, he would make you his number 1 priority and then avail every chance of spending time.
Take note of when he starts calling you less.
This is the first sign of a guy losing interest. When someone is really into you, they want to to talk to you more than once a day, unless they’re extremely busy. When a guy who use to call you more than once a day starts calling you only once, it’s a definite red flag.
Be wary if he begins to make less effort to see you.
At this point, he’s straying. This is painful because the guy no longer makes an effort to see you and you have to do all the chasing and arranging to meet. It’s a definite sign you are no longer a priority to him. On his side, it’s out of sight, out of mind. If someone isn’t interested, they will no longer make an effort.
Notice when his tone of voice towards you changes.
This is a strong tell that he’s not interested anymore. In the beginning a guy will show you his best and show affection, speak to you using a special tone reserved for just you. When his feelings change, his tone of voice becomes less affectionate, more general and fails to speak in that secret conspiratorial tone of lovers.
Instead, it sounds as if he’s speaking to the receptionist or a waiter when he talks to you, polite but without intimacy. It will feel as if you’re been treated as a random person.He may even speak unkindly towards you, or say unfriendly things.
Watch for being snubbed.
If he arranges to go out with friends, to visit family or to go somewhere that has meaning for the two of you but fails to ask you along when he would have done so in the past, you’re being snubbed and slowly removed from his inner circle.
He has no problem telling you about the girls he likes
Yet another clear-cut sign that he’s not interested. Make sure you don’t confuse this with the occasional story about some girl all guys do that from time to time, and it really isn’t a big deal. However, if you talk to a guy and he’s having no trouble telling you about all the girls he likes, the girls he’ll sleep with and any other fantasies of this nature, on a regular basis, you can take that as a clear sign that he’s not that into you. If he was, he wouldn’t be telling you about all these other ladies.
Bad body language
If he avoids eye contact, sits with his body away from you, doesn’t try to keep the conversation going, or generally maintains a distance from you, you can take all of these as signs that he’s not interested.
He seems to flirt with you, but also with everyone else
Noticing a guy’s behavior with other people is critical in determining whether or not he’s into you. If you think he’s flirting with you, look closely at how he acts around other women; does he seem to flirt with them too? He might just be that flirty guy, and the fact that he acts that way around you means nothing.