For one to live happily in a marriage is not subject to what you wear, how you look and the nature of romance in the house. It is about whether whoever you are with at that moment is the person of your choice right from the time you met.
Forget about fake love at first sight, love as result fear of aging, love as result of peer pressure, and love as a result of something you are targeting in the relationship or even love due to desperation and ask yourself why your relationship is not enjoyable.
To genuinely enjoy your relationship first you need to kick away the behavior of acting to entice your partner and try to focus on these guidelines that will definitely enable you to enjoy your relationship. Remember, if you happen to enjoy your relationship then you will be fruitful because you will definitely use the rest of your energy on your self-development.
Let you brain grow by putting yourself in new situations to learn your preferences.
Putting yourself in new situation is very necessary. For example, that moment you are going hectic time in office you should take a break so that you can relax and learn something new in the course. The same applies in relationship.
You should to train to learn something new in and do not chain yourself in thinking the same thing over and over. To define yourself clearly you need to interact with romantic people as you work on yourself.
Dating experiences are different and is from them when you get to compare and contrast what you like and don’t like about those you met. This will make you know who you are and what you want. It is the best way of evaluating your Weakness and strengths.
Now after evaluating your genuine interest you can easily handpick your Mr. or Mrs. Right. Go for the experience.
Understand yourself, sexually and emotionally.
This comes from the point communication is important in any relationship since where there is no communication intimacy and romance may die completely never to resurrect until that problem is sorted out.
Now when you do understand who you are sexually and emotionally you go ahead and fearless express to your partner about your feelings. Do not wait for him or her to learn through observations or experiences. Concealing that crucial information may turn out to be the next “chemical” that will poison your relationship.
Obey the principle of Utmost good faith
Though has more of explanation in business view but when literally understood and applied in relationship is helpful. When you are writing or filling in documents for insurance cover you are required by to into finest details explain everything without concealing a single drop of information.
The same is necessary when you are committing yourself to that man or woman. Be honest enough for this will help your partner to clearly understand you.
Make a conscious effort to become aware of your ongoing emotional reactions to the people and events in your life.
Believe what others define themselves through acts or words.
If someone treats you with disrespect or chronically lets you down, take this as data about whom he or she is as a person.
If you try to talk with someone and he or she dismisses you or rationalizes mistreatment of you, take this seriously; this may not be a suitable match. If a man says he is not looking for “anything serious” or he needs a lot of “space,” let him go.
This person is not in the same place you are and may not want the same things you want. Believe what people communicate about themselves. If they are acting immaturely or disrespectfully, or saying things that hurt you, move on. It is not your job to show someone a better way; it is your job to work on growing as a person.
Don’t let our parents think with you about it.
As an adult, if you continue to allow your parents to meet all of your emotional needs then you siphon off some of the energy that needs to go into your romantic attachments.
As much as possible, little by little, work to be independent of your parents. This does not mean you can’t enjoy their company, spend time with them, and share what you wish with them about your life. It does mean: Work to become comfortable making your own decisions.
Excessively asking for their opinion, reassurance, or guidance, or allowing them to control your life means you are not living for yourself
You have to be in control of your own life, self-aware of your goals, needs and emotions.
Don’t dwell on sextimacy, avoid it.
Research shows relationships that start with sex before emotional intimacy is present typically do not become committed unions.
If you are hoping that a sexual relationship will eventually lead to a more emotionally intimate or committed relationship, cease and desist