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Have you ever wondered why many relationships enter “survival mode”?
Relationships don’t always have a smooth journey. Sometimes they go haywire. Every relation ship has its own set of problems, which can arise from a wide range of issues. The kinds of issues you face in a troubled marriage are often similar to the issues that arise in a bad relationships.
All of us are human beings from different ethnic groups and backgrounds and when two people come together to share love, the first experience is termed as the best. However, as it grows their attitudes determine whether they will be together forever or separate in the long run.
Have you ever got to a point in your relationship where you felt like giving up? Living a solitude life? Or you’re thinking why so much happens to you where you gave in too much and never received anything good in return? You get to only feel the love of your partner during anniversaries, because it’s a routine that has to be remembered .But then you decide to create a survival environment where you alone knows about it.Survival mode sweeps in when the relationships are dying or among broken hearts that can’t let go where they feel they are not wanted.
People tend to survive in different ways when it comes to relationships such as:
- Failing to talk about it.
- Going silent to their partners.
- Creating a new beginning.
I believe everyone deals with unimaginable pain in their own way, and everyone is entitled to that without judgment.
What I have learnt is the magic is not in getting into a relationship, the magic is in staying in it. Even with its strength, flaws and weaknesses you still cope with each other not by surviving but by understanding each other in the best ways possible.
The reasons for creating a survival environment are not between two imperfect couples that are so perfect but it is in engaging into a relationship with different reasons which can be:
- To fit in the relationship age gap; one has to force a serious relationship at a specific age due to desperation.
- For consolation purpose either from a heartbreak which is one main thing people tend to implement in their lives today.
- The “I feel so empty” a statement used by many that make them end up accepting anyone flirting with them at that moment of their crisis.