The number of women who are actually virgins before the age of 25 years is undeniably very small. Not because women are immoral but due to some ‘stupid’ behaviors either by men or women that hasten the rope of immorality.
By mirroring back in the 30s, and some decades before the 21st century, for any man on the brink of getting married considered virgin girls.
This was more of a gold to a woman, and of all things, she would die protecting herself from ‘defilement’.
The pain of one remaining unmarried was too hard to bear, and worse, the embarrassment when her friends discovered that she lost hers not forgetting that reprimand from parents and relatives with others terming her as a whore.
But all that now are news, the word virginity lost its value and as per now, it is only an English word that pupils, students, and learners come across as they peruse the dictionary or during the web search.
The reason behind that drastic change is totally unaccountable. It was so drastic, so fast and in a cheap way.
Currently, out of one hundred young girls aged between 15 years to 25 years, you may happen to find only one or none at all who is decent, and by decency I mean virgin.
The western culture has highly been accused of playing a major role in the rotting of girl’s morals. But on the other hand, those who do (blame western culture) are the people leading in the immoral acts.
Back in the 30s, parents used to sit with their children, through their grandparents to educate them about the aspect of sex. In this 21 century, this happens not.
The exposure of children to pornographic materials, parent’s absence in guidance table and the ‘bad’ company the children chose leads them to act immorally.
Just a day ago I happened to meet girls on the way laughing and mocking their ‘girlfriend’ because she claimed to be a virgin. And all they did questioning her the ‘era’ she was living in.
Show me you friends and I tell you who you are phrase matches this perfectly. When you happen to accompany groups of drunkards, rest assured, if you don’t get ‘registered’ to their habit, they will play tricks on you until they get you in.
At the state of drunkenness, this is one of the time when girls have lost their virginity. Either by dishing it out due to ‘beer’-‘peer’ influence or raped, and the second one is painful, something that has turned some women to ‘beasts’.
The relatives and parents ae another tool through which our girls are losing virginity. How can a father seduce her daughter, rape her or even sell her daughter for money? With such acts, the numbers of virgins around the world keep deteriorating.
I was walking down the streets of Nairobi when I heard a buddy shout, ‘Manze, Natafuta kavanjo” (I am looking for virgin).
His friends quickly responded with a question inquiring whether he wanted to marry but arrogantly the gentleman he just wanted to have ‘fun’ with one.
The most shocking thing was that the man went ahead to add that he would come back bouncing after the act, and look for a virgin in town to marry.
As a man, I pitied the women. Imagine walking to a restaurant, bite all the chapatis and afterward, you tell the waiter or waitress you want complete chapo? Who will buy the incomplete ones?
The pride that women had for their virginity is now what men have when bragging that they have actually reduced the number of virgins by one. My question to such buddies, who will marry the non-virgins?