Marriage, as defined and known to many, is the legally or formally recognized union of a man and a woman (or, in some jurisdictions, two people of the same sex) as partners in a relationship.
For those in marriage, they find it challenge as one enters legally and bound by marriage requirement another era of providing, by obligations, the family members. If marriage was to be compared with environmental surroundings I would say it is like when you present yourself in police custody after committing a crime.
Since by obligation, oath and church vow you are supposed to stay in such situation, whether comfortable or aggressive, then you should be in sober when making the decision to commit your life to the hands of another man and woman.
Reasons that should not force you to marry
Pregnancy. Over the recent, cases of young people marrying as a result of pregnancy have been reported. According to the victims, the pregnancy was an ‘accident’ though some acknowledge they never used protection as they anticipated to apply ‘withdrawal’ method. It is better to remain a single parent in such situation than marrying a person who meets not your anticipations, qualities.
FOBLO. The Fear Of Being left Out has led to ‘premature’ marriage that only last for few months. This happens when all you age mates have found loves, and like tent, you have attended each and every of their wedding ceremony. The pain of missing in actions may make an individual conceive a stupid idea, to just pick who proposes or marry who accepts your proposal.
Getting old. When you discover that you are getting old and you have not so far found your lost rib do not panic. This can lead to immature decision. Selectively and slowly, look for that partner who meets your package description and marry. Do not just rush and marry anyhow, wait until the right moment.
Because you are lonely should also not become your argument foundation of the need to marry. Being lonely is part and parcel of life, and mark you, you have spent many days when lonely. Learn to find ways and keep yourself busy because that idea of marrying could be a furniture out of ‘devils workshop.’
Financial weakness. This majorly applies to women. When you hit 18 and proceed to campus, but unfortunately find yourself jobless and you need money to meet your daily needs you may make a decision that you will forget in future. Avoid marrying because you need a ‘sponsor’ and find legal means to earn you something.
Pity has also been one influencer to early and unnecessary marriage. This happens when a man, or woman sees a suffering person of opposite sex and as a way of helping him out of the situation, the person proposes and marries the individual. The moment such a person will become stable may end up either becoming a player, or marriage breaker.
SEX. Undoubted, sex us part and parcel of life with some people becoming sexually active at the age of even 10 years. Such people end up with high sex drive, and to quench their thirst, they marry for it. When your partner, if it happens, proves to have low sex drive such marriage may end in divorce.
Just admiring to the gown. Some people marry for bizarre reasons, some because they just love getting marriage while others accept the marriage proposal because they want to wear the gown. What they never know is, the activity is just one day affair but the obligations are long-lasting. If you feel wanting to wear that gown, better borrow, wear and return
Arriving at the decision of saying I do should therefore be as a result of the need and urge to fulfill your destiny. After thinking widely, evaluating yourself and, if you reach to a conclusion that, it is because you have met the real partner then do not hesitate, go for it.
But be warned that Sex, Admiration, Financial need, Pity, Age, Fear of Missing Out, Peer Pressure, pregnancy among other things should not stupidly be taken as a basis to why you are headed for a marriage.